after a broken engagement or marriage.

This a tricky one because if the man asks for it back, he is a dickhead and if the woman wants to keep it, then she is a gold digger.So,what gives? These are my rules for a broken engagement/marriage.Hope none of these apply to anyone reading this message but here it is.

1.If the guy did something VERY BAD and this leads to the broken engagement, then he must not mention the ring.By misbehaving, he has forfeited his claim on that ring.Most women would throw the ring on his head anyway so he can get it back that way.

2. If the guy ends it due to other reasons, say he still doesnt feel ready to commit etc, then he can take the ring back (if this is a family heirloom) but he must provide a gift certificate for at least 50% of the value of the ring valid at any jeweller of her choice.

3.If the woman messes up, she must return the ring.If she bought it, she can keep it

4. If the feeling is mutual, and both contributed to the cost of the ring, they must sell it and split the money equally.

5.If there are children that resulted from the relationship, the woman keeps the ring.PERIOD!......unless the father has custody.In which case, the opposite applies.

I hope I have covered all the possible scenarios (well, except gay marriage and promise rings.)

 


Comments

Sat, 07 Mar 2009 09:01:30

There are rules to the ring and engagement.

If the male breaks it off, the woman gets to keep the ring.

If the female breaks it off, then the ring must be given back to the man.

Other than that, what the couple does beyond the rules is on them.

 

Sat, 07 Mar 2009 15:09:27

Cool topic!

I agree with 1 (though I hope most women would keep the ring, sell it and buy themselves a nice trip, piece of furniture or something lovely with it), 3 and 4. I never thought of scenario 5, but your solution makes sense.

At first I wasn't sure about scenario 2. I have a guy friend who ended his engagement with a girl after a short time (2-3 weeeks) because she was honestly psychotic, and I didn't think she deserved to keep the ring or any of the profits of it. But, that being said, I can see how your solution would make sense in the situation of a guy who just doesn't think this engagement is right...perhaps he doesn't deserve to lose the entire cost of the ring...

 

Onyedika

Sun, 29 Mar 2009 17:33:36

A engagement ring specifically signifies (traditionally) a woman and man have entered into an agreement to be married. If for any reason that does not happen, return the ring back.

I don't consider an engagement ring a "gift" in the sense that once given it cannot/should not be given back. It is conditional, so long as we plan to and/or eventually get married.

 



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